The D word...

Divorce. The very word conjures up images of courtrooms and custody battles. It is not a pleasant subject and not something to be looked at lightly. The divorce rate in America is awful. But why am I telling you this? I have my reasons...

My parents finally made their divorce official. Even though I know it had nothing to do with me, it still sucks to have it happen. I know that they are both happier now, but now it seems like I'm in the middle of a "pick me" war. They both try to sway me to their side despite the fact that I love them both and will not take sides on this. They both have many strengths, but they also both have some weaknesses. To be honest, I'm not even sure if they really are happy or if it's just a show to make the other one feel bad. For being adults sometimes they both act like children. I mean what am I supposed to do when my parents are acting like children? I all of a sudden have to be the adult why they run around playing mind games.

Parents should come with a owners manual! They say that they just don't love each other anymore, but when has love ever been easy. When has love ever been an emotion? Love is a choice. You have to choose to give all that you are to someone else for the rest of your life. The book of 1 Corinthians has a great chapter (13) on love. It lists a multitude of actions that describe what love does. These are all actions that you have to choose to do.

Now don't get me wrong, I know that there are powerful emotions that go along with love such as joy, passion, intimacy, but what happens if these emotions fade away? That is when real love steps in and says that even though some of the emotions are gone, I made an everlasting covenant, a choice, to love this person until I die and I intend to keep that covenant no matter what. That is what love does! I just wish more people knew what true love was. I think if people had a better idea of what love was then the divorce rate and the marriage rate would both decrease. I pray that everyone learns the true meaning of love and ultimately who is Love.

God is love. The Bible says that God loved us (that means me and YOU!) so much that He sent His only son, Jesus, to take on the sin of the world. Not just the sin of a few people in that time period. Jesus took the sin of every man, woman, and child in the entire history of the world! He then died for us (Yes, me and YOU!) so that we would not have to endure an eternity separated from Love (God), but so that we could know the true meaning of love and life and all that is good and spend eternity with God in Heaven. But to show even more love Jesus didn't stay dead. After 3 days He came back to life as a sign to all the nations that He is the true meaning of love.

God is love. It is impossible to know love if you do not know God.

You may be asking yourself, "What is this guy talking about?", or "Yea, I've heard all that before, but why is it important?". If you do have some unanswered questions or some doubts, then I pray that you would be courageous and ask me, email me, send me some smoke signals, or something! Life is short and unfortunately, so are some marriages, so what are you waiting for? You don't even have to let me know who are! No question will go unanswered and there are no dumb questions either. Maybe you are having marital problems? I'm not an expert, but I know some and would be happy to help you in any way I can! My email is caleb_n_g@yahoo.com.